At some point in our careers, we find ourselves in need of help from others — whether it’s to make a direct connection to a hiring manager, to gather information on a prospective client company, or to get help in learning about a new industry quickly. However, over the years, we often lose touch with people in our network as work, family, and other demands fill our limited time. As if reaching out to ask for help wasn’t hard enough, what do you do when the person whose help you need is someone you haven’t spoken to in over a decade?
How to Email Someone You Haven’t Talked to in Forever
Yes, it’s awkward, but you should still do it.
August 17, 2018
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Summary.
It can feel really awkward to reach out to someone you haven’t spoken to in 10 years. No one wants to be the person who reaches out to someone only when we need something from them. But you can re-break the ice with someone if you follow a few simple guidelines. Send them an email with a clear subject line, like “Reconnecting.” Acknowledge that you haven’t been in touch. Be friendly, and let them know why you’re reestablishing contact now. Ask them for the favor, but give them an easy out and make sure you offer to reciprocate. Then, regardless of whether they help you, stay in touch. That way, it won’t be awkward the next time you want to say hello.
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